Abuse: Abuse escalates in marriage. Abuse can turn into death by a spouse or intimate partner. In fact, abuse turns into death much more often than many of us would imagine. Abuse that leads to death occurs in male-female relationships and in same-sex relationships.
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Abuse Can Lead to Spousal Death or Murder Signs of a Potential Spouse Killer
By Rob McLean
Abuse: Victims of domestic violence by intimate partners are five to ten times more likely to be women than men. In the United States alone, four women are murdered each day by a spouse or an intimate partner. The marriage phrase "until death do us part" can be real.
How will you know if the abuse occurring in your relationship has the potential of leading to murder?
Maybe you won’t know. But you do know that abuse escalates. Even emotional abuse can escalate to physical violence or death.
In fact, abuse turns into death much more often than m any of us would imagine.
Despite what anyone thinks, though, very few people just “snap” and commit murder. Signposts leading to murder are usually present to some degree, but are missed or intentionally disregarded by the victims of spousal homicide.
Apparently there are some signposts which indicate a potential death threat. There are signs that a husband or wife is the killing kind, says Dr. Robi Ludwig, psychotherapist and author of Till Death Do Us Part: Love, Marriage and the Mind of the Killer Spouse.
Ludwig lists some traits you should beware of in your significant other–traits of a potential spouse killer:
Intense controlling behavior
Explosive feelings of rage
Difficulty forming intimate relationships
Poor impulse control
Inability to understand your feelings
Absence of emotions like remorse and sympathy
Searches out easy pleasure (i.e. a thrill seeker)
Intense feelings of victimization and rejection
Devalues human life
Pathologically idealizes partner
Domestic violence occurs in male-female relationships and same-sex relationships. Although victims of domestic violence by intimate partners are five to ten times more likely to be women than men, this does not mean that a man can not be a spousal murder victim.
And pregnancy is not protective either. The sad truth is that the number one cause of death for pregnant women is murder by their baby’s father.
If you have been in an abusive relationship, don’t assume that the end of the relationship ends the potential of physical harm or murder.
The domestic abuse that leads to murder does not necessarily occur during the marriage or relationship. It may also occur while the relationship is breaking up, or even after the relationship has ended.