| If I was proud of something I had done
and told him about it, he would always tell me all the things that were
wrong with it.
He would push me if I was in his way.
I just got out
of this relationship two weeks ago and have not told anyone what
happened.
I once again would like to thank your site for making me
finally see the obvious, and get out.
T.M., Canada
Abuse by
Husband
Most people think I have a very perfect marriage. In some ways, I
think so myself.
My husband is a good provider who not only works at his job, he helps
me cook and clean.
He is also a wonderful father who really takes time to be with the
kids. He wants me to stay home with them until the youngest is in school.
How could I be so lucky??
Except...
My husband likes to keep people (not just me but everyone who is in
our life) guessing or just a little off-center or doubting themselves. I
often feel a little off-center myself from things that he does or says.
Now I realize that is abuse or his attempt to control the people who
are important to his life.
I am going to suggest marriage counseling. If he does not agree to it
(and I doubt if he will), I will get counseling myself and go from there.
Thanks for this website. It certainly opened my eyes.
RY
Abuse by Dad
Thank you so much for the article "I love you, but."
My dad has done that to everyone in our family for as long as I can
remember.
Sometimes I love my dad and sometimes I really hate him. I
guess that is normal for someone my age.
I am 15 now.
But sometimes he just makes me feel bad, especially when he
says, "You know, I love you, A___, but you are..." or "I love
you, but I wish you..."
Now that I know this is a way to control me, I can take it more with a
grain of salt.
Or at least I hope I can. It still stings for him to say things like
that.
AJ
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