Mark Sandel, Co-Director of the batterer-intervention program at The Family Place in Dallas, Texas, US, had this to say about male abusers, "About the only common thread we’ve found is they are charming. I can see how their wives would fall in love with them."
Verbal abuse escalates and often turns into physical abuse. And everyone knows physical abuse escalates.
Physical abuse of women in domestic violence is well-documented. Health care and law enforcement professionals are trained to look for abuse of women.
In addition, shelters, counseling, and other help is readily available for the asking.