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Explaining the Rules In a Blended Family

There are several good ways to explain the rules in a blended family. Here are a few of this frightening but necessary step for a blended family..

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Explaining the Rules in a Blended Family

Joy Stevens

How  do  your explain the rules of the new blended family? It has to be done.

After the adults are in agreement about the new family, it is time for the children to have  the new regime and the new rules explained to  them.

How do you do this?

Parents can discuss upcoming changes with their  children  in details  appropriate to their age. In all situations, however,  it should be clear from  the beginning  that  the adults are deciding which changes  will  be made.

Who Is Present at the Rules Explanation?

Parents: You may both want to be present when this is discussed,  allowing the biological parent to do the talking. Or you may choose a one-on-one situation.

Children: If more than one child is involved, you may want each child to have a personal, one-on-one explanation.

You may also prefer to have all children from one biological family together and then all children from the other biological family together.

The biological parent can  explain to his/her children, that although love is not necessary for  the new  parent in the blended family, respect and cooperation are mandatory. Clearly state that the new spouse or partner is to be treated in a courteous manner.

The best practice here is repeat, repeat, and repeat. End with having all children present while both parents together explain the rules.

Are you finished now?

Unfortunately, no.

Now the power struggle begins with the children and maybe even with the parents.

Blended families are rarely made in heaven. In fact, there  will  be problems while affection and bonding are growing.

Every  blended  family has its ups and downs. From sullen teen-agers to former spouses who would never dream of cooperating with anyone, you’ll find life in a blended family is challenging.

Go slow. You will not be a family in one day or possibly even  in one year. Many experts say it can take three years or longer!

Persistence is the key. A blended family is a long-term commitment.

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If you cultivate patience, concentrate on the positive, and  keep your sense of humor, you,  too, can become an effective and loving stepmom or stepdad. But setting the ground rules first will go a long way to making your new blended family successful.

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