Stages Blended Family
Parenting Your Blended Family.
Blended Family: You can move through conflicts, be stepkin, and form the new American blended family of the 21st century.
Stages in Your Blended Family
Blended Family: Remember that a family is what we make it as you move through the different stages of evolving a blended family.
|Americans love fairy tales. Especially the one where Prince Charming and Cinderella live happily ever after. If that did not come true in the first marriage, well… we are often given another chance in a second one.
A blended family is begun when an adult, with at least one child from a previous marriage, forms a household with someone who has no ties to that child. Although that does not have to be a new spouse, for purposes of this article we are going to assume it is a new spouse.
This new household can be attached to a variety of people such as the "other" parent(s), possible new brothers and sisters, old in-laws and new in-laws, old grandparents and new grandparents, etc. A virtual blender of people that evolves a new family of "stepkin."
Margaret Newman, registered psychologist, in her book Stepfamily Realities, lists five stages in stepfamily growth. Each stage can, and probably will, be experienced with portions of other stages present, too. However, these stages represent the evolution of stepfamily life.
1. The Fantasy Stage.
Husband and wife feel all dreams of family life will finally come true. Stepsiblings may be looking forward to living together. There is idealism with everyone putting their best foot forward. In addition, the two parents are getting to know each other as mates. This is hard enough with no children present.
2. The Confusion Stage.
Differences begin to emerge and expected happiness is slipping away. Still, there is typically denial of impending trouble. Tension grows, romance wanes, children’s novelty has worn off, and fear of not making it rears its head.
3. The Conflict Stage.
Power struggles begin as family members want their needs met. Open or hidden expressions of anger and aggression appear.
CyberParent Recommended Reading for More Information:
|Blended Family Roots||Family Factors||Myth: Blended Family Equals Instant Famil|
|Introducing Blended Families||Second Marriages with Children||Discipline for Blended Families.|
|Blended Family||Blended or Blender?||New Stepparent: Now What?|
|Stages in Blended Family||Family Rules and Dynamics||Building Kinship|
|Six Common Blended Family Conflicts||Stepfathers: A fact of life in America today.||Stepparents Feel Isolated in Blended Family|
|Book Review: The Blended Family Sourcebook||Book Review: Blending Families|
|Book Review: The Courage to Be a Stepmom||Book Review: Divorce and New Beginnings|
|Book Review: Stepcoupling||Book Review: Step Wars|
|Book Review: Step Wise||Book Review: Surviving Your Adolescents.|
|Book Review: 1-2-3 Magic||Book Review: Boundaries|
|Book Review: The Combined Family||Book Review: Living in a StepFamily|
|CD Review: Pick Me Up||DVD Review: The Happiest Baby on Block|
|VHS Review: Baby See ‘n Sign||VHS Review: Sign with Your Baby|
|VHS Review: The Wiggles-20 Videos|
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