Proper discipline adds self-esteem. Helping yourchild set limits builds self-esteem. Discipline and limits grow self-esteem. Children whoare not disciplined, and who have few limits, can’t grow up with high self-esteem.
Proper Discipline Adds Self-Esteem.
The importance of seeing and accepting your child as he/she is can’t bestressed enough in order to foster their self-esteem. There are other factors thatcontribute to self-esteem in children. The two most important of these factors arediscipline and setting limits for your kids.
Children who are not disciplined, who do not have limits, can not grow up withhigh self-esteem. They tend to be more dependent and feel that they have less control overtheir world. Kids, just like adults, are more confident when they feel they have control.
Children will run into disapproval and cruelties in the world. They need thephysical and emotional protection of rules and limits for self-esteem.
Use positive discipline. Children who are disciplined with only negativeconsequences or through negative talk may learn to behave but they often do it with agrudge against parents and with little internal self-esteem.
Gear discipline toward the age of your child. Your child at two needs adifferent kind of discipline that he/she will at five, ten, and fifteen years of age. Infact, each additional year of age will have you giving up control of your child’s life toyour child. Letting your child control his/her life in a manner suitable to age, is onemore way to grow self-esteem.
In addition, school age children transfer more and more allegiance from theirfamily to their peer group each year. By the time your child is a young teen-ager you willhave powerful competition from the peer group. That is the way it will be, like it or not.At this point your prior discipline should lead your teen-ager to self-control.
A young teen also needs independence. Teen-agers rarely need as muchindependence as they want, but they do need an increasing opportunity to make their owndecisions, and yes, even their own mistakes. The less willing you are to grant someindependence to your teen, the more likely he or she is to rebel and take thatindependence anyway.
Independence means they leave home before age 40! And this is good…