Family and Families: Family trees, roots; Children Need Family identities
Family: Roots are the continuity of family and clan: the family tree. All children need roots; they belong; they belong to a family, a clan. Roots are important to kids and to families. Show your child old pictures and ancestors to establish roots.
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Family and Families
The Family and Roots The Family Tree
By Jan Wilson
Family: We see roots, belonging, as important to our child, children and kids. Our clans, families, family trees, ancestors, provide family continuity, family roots, and clans of ancestors.
Continuity of family is important to all children but it probably becomes more important to
Children who do not live near relatives.
Children of very small families.
Children of a broken home.
They need to feel that they belong to a much larger group–that they have "roots."
An impression of belonging to two unique family groups helps your children develop a personal sense of history and a personal identity. This feeling includes knowing where they came from as well as understanding that their family has a special personality.
Expose your children to a family tree. Intersperse tales of Great-grandpa Jones and old-maid Aunt Mary. Tell about Papa Joe as a school boy and Great-Grandma Bertha’s fur coat. Show them a picture of skinny Auntie as a fat, fat baby.
Define the family personality in terms of "We Jones always give presents" or "We Jones never write letters."
Include some peculiarities with the positive traits.
Show old pictures when you can. You are a clan!
If you are the non-custody parent in a broken family, your children may know even less about your side of the family. Allow some time for family talk on a regular basis. It is important.
That sense of belonging, having a special identity, and passing that identity on, gives children an investment in group continuity. It also allows your family to act as their bridge to the outside world–the true function of any family.
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