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Friendship is an in-depth relationship. Friends are comfortable and relaxed. Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends. It is an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy. |
It is an in-depth relationship
combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and
intimacy.
These are certainly aspects of life
that all of us crave.
Being able to trust and relax with
your friend is a big part of friendship.
Remember when you were young and went
with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got
home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax
now."
That's what a friendship should be.
You go out into the world and do your
best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and
tribulations. You charm and you perform.
Then you come "home" to a
friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to
be charming and/or performing, it's not a relief.
Fr
It is an in-depth relationship
combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and
intimacy.
These are certainly aspects of life
that all of us crave.
Being able to trust and relax with
your friend is a big part of friendship.
Remember when you were young and went
with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got
home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax
now."
That's what a friendship should be.
You go out into the world and do your
best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and
tribulations. You charm and you perform.
Then you come "home" to a
friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to
be charming and/or performing, it's not a relief.
Friendship is a comfy situation like
home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh, "Ahh, home." iendship is a
comfy situation like home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh,
"Ahh, home."
It is an in-depth relationship
combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and
intimacy.
These are certainly aspects of life
that all of us crave.
Being able to trust and relax with
your friend is a big part of friendship.
Remember when you were young and went
with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got
home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax
now."
That's what a friendship should be.
You go out into the world and do your
best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and
tribulations. You charm and you perform.
Then you come "home" to a
friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to
be charming and/or performinFriendship lifts hearts and
lengthens lives. It has been hailed as the eventual good by the greatest
philosophers, promoted (at least in theory) by all the chief religions and
deified by revolutionaries. It even defeats the common cold. The wondrous good
in question is friendship. Aristotle's highest goal for men and the third plank
of the French revolution - liberty, equality, union - friendship is as old as
humanity and as important as love or justice. But while the shelves in one part
of the bookshop groan with self-help books on how to snag the ideal partner,
and others (usually in the basement) are packed with economic treatises on
income distribution and philosophical texts on the character of freedom,
friendship barely gets a mention.
While the declaration that "friends are
the new family" is an exaggeration, it is certainly the case that
friendships figure prominently in both the lives people actually lead and the
ones to which they aspire. Television programmes such
as Friends and Sex and the City portray a world in which close friendships
describe the contours of the participants' lives: parents and children are
allowed, at best, walk-on parts. One school of social science sees the emergence
of "families of choice", with networks of friends supplanting blood
ties. We have parents and siblings; we make friends.
In fact, blood ties remain as tough as ever.
Data from the official Social Trends series shows that family is as much the
first port of call for maintainance in times of
crisis as it was three decades ago. What does seem to be happening is some
blurring of the lines between friends and family, what Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl call a "suffusion" of friend and family in
their approaching Friendship: the one good thing?. Friendship is not always an
unalloyed good, the benefits of friendship are unevenly spread and the impact
of friendship on traditional objectives of the centre left, such as parity,
diversity and mobility, is mixed.
g, it's not a relief.
Friendship is a comfy situation like home. You get hoe, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh, "Ahh, home."