Gender conceit and gender bashings do not improve relationships. Attacking male/female gender is like attacking the person. We will defend ourselves from gender bashing. Gender conceit is part of our self-esteem. A man-woman relationship is hurt by gender bashing because gender conceit make the attack seem personal.
Attacking your spouse’s gender is virtually the same as attacking your spouse.
Beware of gender bashings!
Gender conceit is part of our self-esteem. A man-woman relationship is hurt by gender bashing because gender conceit make the attack seem personal.
One of the recurring "gender jokes" about men is they never ask directions unless a female significant other forces the issue. The men I have been around often fall true to form. Most even admit they ask directions as a rock-bottom last resort even when some woman is "nagging" them to do this. After all, only women and children need to ask directions. Real men know the way!
Gender conceit and gender bashings do not improve relationships. Attacking male/female gender is like attacking the person. We will defend ourselves from gender bashing.
Women often use this so-called male trait in derogatory remarks about "those men," despite the fact that some men do ask directions on a regular basis.
We all feel obligated to defend our gender; it is part of our self-esteem. Gender conceit is each gender thinking it is basically right while the opposite gender is basically wrong. Best expressed as, "We’re right; they’re wrong."
Derogatory remarks about "those men" or "those women" rarely get you anywhere in a couples’ discussion.
Gender conceit often sees an attack on one’s gender as equal to an attack on one’s self.
Although, repeatedly, the one thing that can be said is that all men are not alike and all women are not alike, people resort to gender bashings as a way to make a point.
Here is a perfect example of gender conceit and the exceptions as found in Ann Landers column, August, 1998.
The Letter: "Dear Ann Landers: I have been a service station attendant in New Jersey for five years. Twenty or thirty people a day approach me for directions. Roughly 70 percent of them are men, and only about a third of those men are accompanied by women. What does that tell you? South Plainfield, N.J."
Landers’ Reply: "Dear South Plainfield: That tells me women have a better sense of direction than men and that when men get lost, they don’t want to admit it in front of their wives. This probably goes back to Moses, who wandered in the desert for 40 years."
Yet repeatedly, the one thing that can be said is that all men are not alike and all women are not alike. Some men ask directions rather than waste time riding around in a circle. As the article says, if 70 percent of the men ask directions with or without their wife, some men do ask directions!