Understanding the opposite gender means understanding that gender differences, gender conceit, gender roles and gender correctness are magnified by relationships. Gender misunderstandings can hurt relationships.
Genders and Gender Understanding in Relationships.
Gender misunderstandings can hurt relationships.
Maybe you can’t understand your spouse, fiancée, or special person because you don’t understand the other gender.
Minor sex and gender differences are magnified by relationships. These differences and needs must be understood and then bridged because they are slow-to-impossible to change.
Sex refers to our physical structure and can only be modified within certain strict limits.
Understanding the opposite gender means understanding that gender differences, gender conceit, gender roles and gender correctness are magnified by relationships.
Gender, on the other hand, is largely determined by society.
Babies are assigned a gender role and then socialized according to their society’s concept of gender. According to Carol Rhodes, Ph.D., and Norman Goldner, Ph.D., in their book Why Men and Women Don’t Get Along, "Gender is largely socially determined. Women and men are assigned to a gender role and then act out masculine or feminine behavior as prescribed by society and culture (and influenced by biology). Gender constitutes the core of our self-conception and much of our behavior for the rest of our lives.
"A person of one sex (genitally, anatomically) who experiences themselves as a member of the ‘opposite’ gender is going to experience terrible internal conflicts."
Gender may appear to be voluntary and easily changed, but since we consciously and unconsciously follow society’s mandates, gender is a reality that must be dealt with in any relationship.
Maybe you can’t understand your special person because you believe the opposite sex is always wrong and your sex is always right. Men and women have a natural inclination to think the practices of their own gender are right. We all have "gender conceit."
Yet if we approach our relationships from a stand-point of always being "right," we lose harmony, while promoting constant competition.
Both men and women will assert a claim to self-esteem, much of which is derived from gender identification. So, forget being right and prepare to understand that mysterious opposite sex if your goal is a successful relationship with a special person.