You have reached a stage or age in life where you should begin slowing down, maybeeven indulge in a rocking chair while staring at the fire or sunset.
Slowing down at any age could mean reduced stress and stopping to smell the roses.But it could also mean slowing to the point of doing nothing. Doing nothing is wrong atany age.
In fact, the end results of doing nothing are unhappiness and probable depression.
Many psychologists believe that healthy, middle-aged or elderly adults who retire tothe rocking chair have a problem. Often that problem is "learned helplessness."Learned helplessness starts when, after failures or losses, we lose faith in our ownability to do anything effectively.
This affects both emotions and behavior. We become more withdrawn and apatheticabout life in general and pleasure in particular. Although this can happen at any time wefeel that we are not in control of our lives, the possibility of developing learnedhelplessness seems to increase with age–particularly after retirement.
Learned helplessness can, and often does result in depression.
Depression is not the normal grief you feel over the loss of a spouse or a job orthe general frustrations and unhappiness life sometimes deals us.
Depression is a sad, energyless state that can last for long periods of time. It isa prolonged and real mental disorder that varies among individuals and needs professionaltreatment.
There can be another problem with age. Many people assume age equals incompetence.
Nothing could be further from the truth. The changes that many call natural to agingare unnatural at any age. There is nothing natural about being bored, depressed, orunhappy at any age of stage in life.
However, retiring to the rocking chair and the inactivity that goes with it, can lead to incompetence.
Stay active. Do active things with your grandchildren.
Read, write, do some arithmetic. Keep that mind going with crossword puzzles and other mind activities.
Your grandparenting "job" is to stay alert, happy, and competent so you can add to the love and enjoyment in your grandkids lives!
Large Play Mats roll-up for storage between grandkids’ visits.