Grandparenting and time-out: If your particular grandchild seems to benefit from physicalactivity during time-out, and the timeouts are working, i.e., controlling disruptivebehavior, then do it–use physical activity for this particular child! Any safe activitythat provides isolation and uses her excess energy should work.
Time-Out for Active Grandchild. A Discipline Series.
If your grandchild is older and is very active or is very aggressive, requiring this child to sit alone may set-off even more angry, aggressive, or destructive actions. This grandchild could need a physical action instead of a quiet time for time-out.
The younger aggressive grandchild will respond to time-outs. When you take her away from family and friends, she does not receive her sought after attention.
If your grandchild is older and is very active or is very aggressive, requiring this child to sit alone may set-off even more angry, aggressive, or destructive actions. Yet it is often this very active or aggressive child who needs isolation the most to get behavior under control. This child could need a physical action instead of a quiet time for time-out.
The following are a few time-outs you can try with this grandchild. Require child to:
Walk around the back yard.
Walk around the block.
Rake the lawn.
Ride bicycle around the block.
Any safe activity that provides isolation and uses her excess energy should work.
You can also combine timeout with restitution. You might have your grandchild fix a toy that was broken by your grandchild. You might also have the grandchild do a chore for the party he/she injured.
This aggressive grandchild is the one who is most likely to
Yell and scream for hours.
Leave the time-out location.
Tear-up the time-out location.
Refuse to go to time-out location.
Your grandchild is counting on this wearing you down. So be prepared for this testing with additional help if possible.
If your grandchild continues to leave the time-out location, you will have to return him to the location. Each time you must take him back to that location, take away a privilege such as TV time, phone privileges, time spent with friends, or time spent outdoors. Just make certain he knows what these consequences will be in advance.
The first few time-outs could take as long as one hour to complete. Ignore all noise, yelling or even cursing from the timeout location. The timeout location could even require an outside lock to work.
Always keep in mind that the purpose of time-out is to allow your child to get his/her disruptive behavior under control. It is not used to break the grabdchild’s spirit. If your particular grandchild seems to benefit from physical activity during time-out, and the timeouts are working, i.e., controlling disruptive behavior, then do it–use physical activity for this particular child!
Perfect gift to give your children…
If this excellent form of discipline appeals to you, get the whole story by buying the publication. Phelan’s book, 1-2-3 Magic, Training Your Child to Do What You Want. In addition to very thorough coverage of his counting method for time-out, Phelan also includes a section for teachers, a section for more serious stop-behaviors, such as lying, stealing, or playing with fire, and a section for start-behavior tactics.
This book is a must-read for parents and grandparents of children aged two up to early teens.