Intimacy and Love: Men and Women look at love, intimacy, and sex from their own different perspective.

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Intimacy and Love: Each sex has different and valid approaches to love, intimacy, and sex.

Men  and women both want to be loved.

Men and women both want to be respected.

Each sex has valid, but different,  approaches to love, intimacy, and sex.

They do have different views of what it takes to be loved and respected.

Actually,  what is needed is for men and women to bridge  the differences between them rather than men being "right" or women being "right."

We need to understand the opposite sex. But more than that, we need to understand ourselves.

There is a saying which goes, "Men will do anything for sex, even love. Women will do anything for love, even sex."

For  men, being sexually active is being alive and fulfilled.  It confirms their masculinity and raises their self-esteem.

For women, being hugged, touched, caressed, and cuddled is  often much more important than sex.

Men are easily aroused. Women must often give themselves  permission to "turn on."

David Schnarch, PhD, in his book Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships writes that a man is more likely to let the relationship suffer to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt to let her identity suffer to help strengthen the relationship.

There are definite differences in place already for both men  and women that are caused by the way we were socialized as children. Although our  gender expectations are  changing, they change slowly. 

In  addition, each sex thinks his/her sex is the correct one.

Gender identification is so ingrained in our psyche that we  are certain  "we are right!"

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It is also common to think the other sex is the same as our  sex.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

For  either sex to assume that what is natural and preferred for his sex or her sex is correct for both sexes has been called "gender conceit."

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Definitions and realities are in order here.

1. Not all women are alike. Some women are more evolved than other women.

2. Not all men are alike.  Some men are more evolved than other men.

3. Gender  identity is the sense we have of belonging either to the male half of  the human race or the female half of the race.

4. Gender conceit is when either sex assumes that what is natural and preferred for her/his sex is correct for both sexes.

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