Should I keep seeing a married man? I can not seem to get away. My family wants me to quit seeing him. What does Dr. Luv think?
Dr. Luv The Relationship Coach
Letter Low Self-Esteem
Dear Dr. Luv,
Hello, I know you must get thousands of e-mails a day but please can you try to respond back to me. I was in a relationship with someone for 14 months, when we first started going out everything seemed great, couldn’t have asked for a nicer guy. But 5 months into the relationship I found out that he was not divorced.
Let me explain , she lives in another state and they have been separated for over three years. They do have 4 children together, 3 of which live with him now. We were together for 14 months but he has broken my trust one by lying to me about being divorced and other things, so I moved out and we so-called broke up.
I find myself still going over to his house and sometimes spending the night, but when I leave I feel empty and very angry with myself. I tend to beat myself up for going back over to his house. I did agree to try to continue to be friends with him, but I am finding it hard to do.
My inner self keeps telling me to walk away, but I find myself right back over there. I have even considered either moving to another city or even out of state to end this. I hate hurting peoples feelings,but at the same time this thing feels like its killing me.
I get very depressed after seeing him and tend to cry about this.
I don’t know what to do, I do know that I am tired of feeling this way. I tried to deal with his kids but I just can’t its a long story. I think that even if they had not came to live with us we would have still went our separate ways . He has lied to me too much about too many things and I don’t and can’t trust him any more.
How do I end this thing or walk away? Can you please help me. I need someone who knows what they are talking about to give me some answers and some one without a biased opinion. My family wants me to stop seeing him altogether. I think that they are right.
What do you think? Thank you for listening . CM
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