Although parents will find the younger, very active or aggressive child will respond to timeo-uts, parents will also find this child can be a behavior problem.
When this parent’s child is older and is very active or is very aggressive, requiring this child to sit alone may set-off even more angry, aggressive, or destructive actions. Yet it is often this very active or aggressive child who needs isolation the most to get behavior under control.
Take Emily as an example: When her parents take her away from family and friends, she does not receive her sought-after attention. This is good. But when her parents try to get this child to sit quietly alone, they often find it does not work. This is the child that probably needs for her parents to assign a physical action instead of a quiet time for time-out.
The following are a few time-outs each parent can try with this type of child. Parents can require the child to do such things as::
Walk around the block.
Rake the lawn.
Ride bicycle around the block.
Run around the back yard.
Parents Tip: Any safe activity that provides isolation and uses her excess energy should work for time-outs..
Parents can also combine time-out with restitution. Parents might have this child fix a toy of another child that he broke. Parents might also have the child do a chore for the party he injured.
This aggressive child is the one who is most likely to drive parents to distraction with behavior problems such as
Yelling and screaming for hours.
Just leaving the time-out location altogether.
Tearing-up the time-out location.
Refusal to go to time-out location.
A parent’s child is counting on this wearing the parent down. So all parents should be prepared for this testing with additional help for the first few times time-out is used if this is possible.
Whenever a child continues to leave the time-out location, a parent will have to return him to the location. Each time his parent must take him back to that location, he/she might take away a privilege such as TV time, phone privileges, time spent with friends, or time spent outdoors. Each parent should make certain the child knows what these consequences will be in advance.
The first few time-outs could take as long as one hour to complete. Parents should ignore all noise, yelling or even cursing from the timeout location.
Parents Tip: The timeout location could even require an outside lock to work.
Parents should always keep in mind that the purpose of time-out is to allow each child to get his/her disruptive behavior under control. It is not used to break the child’s spirit. If a particular child seems to benefit from physical activity during time-out, and the timeouts are working, i.e., controlling disruptive behavior, then parents should do it again,
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