Time-outs can effectively stop behaviors that are especially hard to discipline. It can also serve as disciplinary action for a particularly aggressive or impulsive kid! These discipline problems can include everything from a temper tantrum to cursing to name-calling to spitting to acting up and to biting.
If your child is very angry or actually having a tantrum, time-outs can be a very effective form of discipline. They are a "stop" behavior discipline rather than a "start" behavior discipline.
Parents Tip: Time-outs also serve to save parental sanity from time-to-time!
Parents should always start the time-out before losing tempers. It adds effectiveness to discipline as the child has more confidence in theirr consistency.
All adults and older siblings must follow the same rules to most effectively use this form of discipline. This includes grandparents and caregivers.
Time-out discipline tips include:
Parents don’t bargain, discuss or argue with children.
Parents use one minute of time-out for each year of age.
Parents use a timer. They set the timer only when the child is quiet, i.e., not screaming, cursing, banging around, or using disrespectful language.
Parents ignore all yelling, sarcastic remarks, and screaming while time-out proceeds. Parents must even ignore cursing, which many parents find hard to do.
After the time is over, parents open the door and permit the child to leave. Parents include no further explanation, warning, or apology.
Some experts recommend parents give a hug or affirmation of love when their child is emerging from time-out. Others say parents should act as if nothing unusual has happened and don’t hug or affirm love with the kids.
I always hugged my children and told them I loved them. It did not "dilute" the discipline power of the timeout.
Regardless of hugs and love affirmations, parents should always cheerfully welcome kids back when the time-out is over.
Any parent may use the potential time-out for warning purposes. All must be certain to only give one warning, though, and always follow through. This is an effective disciplinary tool when combined with counting to three before starting time-out.
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