There are are a few things for parents to remember when choosing a time-out location.
1. Parents must always remember that the time-out penalty must be unpleasant for the child in order for time-out to work. Also, time-out does not work well after a parent has lost his/her temper and/or yelled at the child. Parents need to be calm, cool , and collected when administering a timeout.
2. Parents should also keep in mind that they are not trying to frighten a child into submission.
3. Parents are trying to:
Put an immediate halt to an inappropriate behavior.
Take away something (freedom and attention) that the child wants.
4. Parents should always choose a timeout location in advance of the time it is needed. When a child is misbehaving, every parent wants to be able to stop the behavior immediately, not start looking around for a spot to send the child for time-out.
Time-Out at Home
1. Parents choose a spot appropriate to the child’s age.
2. Parents choose a location to send children every time they go to timeout.
3. Parents choose a spot that is safe for the child.
4. Parents choose a boring spot away from all action and any attention from other family members.
5. Parents choose a location that can be reached quickly.
Parents try not to use the following places:
1. Kitchens or bathrooms: Too many potentially dangerous objects in these areas, such as knives, poisons, hot water, etc.
2. Basement or other dark spots: These places are too scary to be used for time-out.
3. The yard: Let’s face it–the yard is always fun and sometimes dangerous.
This leaves the bedroom unless you have a better place such as a study or a hallway with lights that can be closed off.
Time-Out at Home of Others
When visiting others, parents use a porch, a hallway, or the back yard if it is safe.
Time-Out in Public Places
Parents can choose a restroom or even a car to work in a public place.
Parents Tip: Don’t leave your child alone in a public place. Although you’ll still ignore him and withhold your attention, keep him well in sight.
A child that suffers from separation anxiety when her parents leave her, should have a time-out spot that is not isolated from her parents, particularly when in a strange place.
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