Before Time-Out Starts: It is crucial that parents’ make certain children understand what behaviors will result in time-out.
Steps and procedures in timeouts for parents.
1. Parents tell the child briefly (two sentences or less) that the consequence for a specific (be very specific) behavior will be time-out.
2. Parents remain calm while saying this.
"Chris, move away from your sister. If you touch your sister again, even accidentally, you will have time-out."
3. When a child breaks a rule that he/she knows has time-out consequences, parents don’t argue and don’t negotiate. They quickly and concisely remind the child of the rule and its consequences, then send him/her immediately to the time-out location.
"Timeout Chris. I warned you what would happen if you touched her again. Go to your room now for nine minutes." Chris is nine-years old.
Chris yells, "It’s not fair. Rachel stuck out her tongue at me. You let her get away with everything. It’s not fair. It’s not fairrrr. You love her more than me."
4. Parents state the amount of time the child must stay in time-out while reminding him that if he/she is not calm at the end of the time-out, the time will be extended until he is calm.
"Chris, go to your room. You must stay there until you have been calm for nine minutes. If you calm down now, you will be out in nine minutes."
Parents Tip: Remember to offer children an alternate acceptable behavior that they can use the next time they are in the same situation.
Parents should ask themselves this question: What is an acceptable behavior in your family when one child taunts another?
1. Telling you? 2. Asking his sister to stop? 3. Laughing at his sister?
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