Non-Custody Single Parent: Non-custodial or part-custodial parents can have a negative or positive influence on the lives of their children. If you are a non-custody or part-custody parent, continuity is the most important part of your influence on your children’s lives. Lack of contact with the non-custody single parent has a negative impact on your child.
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Continuity is the most important part of your relationship after divorce. It is important for the non-custody parent to see children frequently and regularly-and-start this right after separation .
Single Parents: Non-Custody
Non-Custody Parent By Jan Wilson
One aspect of being a part-time parent, the noncustody or shared-custody parent, is feeling that you do not have much, in any, effect on your children’s lives.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Non-custodial parents always have an impact on the lives of their children. However, that impact can be positive or negative.
Children who do not have regular contact with their non-custody parent experience reduced self-esteem and actually feel unloved and unlovable. So the impact on their lives is negative.
Research has proven that children’s adjustment to divorce is improved dramatically when they have a good relationship with both parents.
Researchers from the University of Maryland (as reported in Reuters Health) found that even when dads do not live at home, children whose dads are actively involved intheir lives tend to have better cognitive and language skills and fewerbehavior problems.
“We found that fathers who are involved with their children have children with fewer problems,” according to lead investigator Dr. Maureen Black. “That addedinvolvement from a father helps children tremendously.”
Continuity is the most important part of your relationship after divorce. It is important to see children frequently and regularly.
This shows them they are important to you. It also reassures them when you part they will see you again soon. They feel they can count on you in a topsy-turvy world.
It is important to start this regular schedule immediately after separation from your spouse.
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