Spoiled: Discipline Your Child with Self-Esteem

Discipline your child for self-esteem not guilt. Can you spoil a child? Most experts agree babies under six-months old can’t be spoiled. Discipline is different for each age.

Probably the best stop-behavior discipline for ages 2-12 is time-out.

The important thing about discipline is to leave your child’s self-esteem intact.

  • Can you spoil your baby?
  • Will time-out work as a form of discipline?
  • How do you discipline your child while maintaining his/her self-esteem?
  • Can you discipline your child and stop undesirable behaviors without making your child feel “bad” or guilty?

Discipline before age 2:

Can you spoil a child? That is the question all parents face. Most experts agree babies under six-months old can’t be spoiled and can’t be disciplined. After six months, however, experts disagree about spoiling and discipline.

Daytime Spoiling? Until a baby is six months old, studies have shown that picking her up when she cries, and indeed, catering to her every need will not spoil her. In fact, she will turn out to be happier, more self-reliant, calmer, than if she does not receive attention when she cries.

Nighttime Spoiling? For an entire life, starting when we are infants, we will wake up from time-to-time at night. Babies wake up, too, even when they aren’t hungry.

Crying It Out. How do babies get their needs met? They cry. That is the only way they can communicate during the first bewildering months of their life. Should you let them “cry it out?” Crying or not crying is an important question.

Baby Sign Language Much of babies crying and parent/baby frustration is an inability to communicate. Modern parents are turning to sign language to “talk” to their children long before they are mature enough to verbalize.

Questions about 1-2-3- Magic as a stop-behavior discipline.

Discipline from ages 2 thru 12:

Probably the best stop-behavior discipline is time-out. Setting limits is part of discipline and is also a boon to child’s self-esteem.

Time-out Timeout is used as a discipline procedure to allow a child to gain control of his/her temper. This series explains timeout for parents/caregivers and why time-outs should be used in a consistent manner. Time-out is a stop-behavior discipline that allows child to regain control without loss of self-esteem.

Ten Steps to Discipline and Set Limits.Setting limits: No one really enjoys a spoiled child, one who is demanding, whining, crying. and a tyrant of a kid.It’s much easier not to let that demanding, whining, and temper-tantrum-laden behavior start by setting limits from the beginning. Discipline is about limits.

Count to Three. Some behaviors are “stop” behaviors. They require a different kind of discipline. Whining, temper tantrums, begging, fighting, etc. are “stop’ behavior. How can you stop behaviors in  a  child who is 2-to-12 years old? Try counting!

Discipline Styles and Results: There are three basic discipline styles. These different discipline styles have different results, of course.

Setting Boundaries
Discipline is setting boundaries for your child.