Babies wake up at night even after they no longer need feeding. What do you do?
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For an entire life, starting when weare babies, we will wake up from time-to-time at night. Babies wake up, too, even whenthey no longer need additional night feedings. Every child is different so remember thatsome babies cry a minute or two everytime they wake up for months or years-a kind offretful fussing. You will have to learn to sleep through this.
I often wake up several times during the night. Don’t you?
Of course. For our entire life, we will wake up from time-to-time at night.
Babies wake up, too, just as we do. They do this even when they no longer need to be fed at night.
Burton White, Ph.D., in his book The First Three Years of Life believes babies learn that crying brings first, comfort, then later, entertainment. White opines that this natural learning begins to make problems for the parents of the nine-to-ten-month-old child.
According to White, the situation goes like this, "It is extremely common for such a child to begin to wake up at anywhere from 9 pm on through 2 or even 3 am and begin to cry. Of course, there may be times when such crying is due to illness or other physical distress, but very often it is simply the result of the fact that the child is alone, usually in a dimly lit room, is not very sleepy, and hasn’t much to do. Therefore, he brings into play the one tool that has alleviated boredom before–the cry."
So, what do you do?
Do you rush to baby’s crib or let him/her "cry it out.’
Some of this decision is up to you. Many discipline decisions you will make during your baby’s growing-up years will revolve around consistency. This one will, too.
Are you a softy? Just can’t listen to baby cry without going nuts? Never consistent about much of anything?
If you know you won’t be consistent, don’t even start the process of "crying it out." The mixed signals of inconsistency will confuse your baby.
Regardless of whatever else you do, a midnight snack is out. However, any other sleep crutches, including comforting from mom or dad, will be better for your baby than being confused.
But, many sleep experts contend that babies need to fall back to sleep on their own. And most of them will eventually have to "cry it out" to do this.
If you can stand an hour or more of crying, do it. This lets baby exhaust himself and give up on possibility of anyone coming. When this happens, an exhausted baby falls back to sleep.
The next night, the crying time will probably be shorter. It should decrease each night until he no longer cries at night merely because he is awake.
This is guaranteed to tear your heart out. Try a fan, music on the radio, or other means to make the crying less audible. Less audible, but not inaudible. You still must see to your baby’s safety, of course.
If crying changes or he sounds as if he is in trouble, go to him immediately. Straighten out the problem, give him a few parental murmurs of comfort, a pat or two, then leave again.
A second way, one that takes longer but is less heart rending, is to let baby cry for a few minutes, then go to her for a gentle pat and reassuring words. Then leave again. Leave without picking her up and without staying with her long enough to allow her to fall sleep in your comforting presence.
Extend the amount of time you leave her each night until she falls asleep on his own.
Every child is different. Some babies will be confused by this and cry even harder. This will probably increase, not decrease. the amount of time it takes her to fall asleep again.
Since every child is different, what worked for your first child will not necessarily work for your second. What worked for your neighbor’s child might or might not work for your infant.
Also, remember, that some babies cry a minute or two everytime they wake up for months or years-a kind of fretful fussing. You will have to learn to sleep through this.
Other babies won’t stop crying with any method. What’s the matter here?
Possibly they don’t get enough to eat during the day, have allergies, or are actually ill. Some babies cry themselves to sleep every night. They may use this as a way to unwind from a stimulating day.
However, if you try several things, and nothing seems to work, consult your doctor.
A crying baby who does not normally cry needs immediate attention. It could be teething, being caught in the covers, being too tired or stimulated to sleep, etc. In other words, it could be minor but it could be a serious problem.
Check your baby out and then return to your normal routine. If a baby who has not been crying continues to cry regularly, it might be a sign of illness. Let your doctor know right away.
Plus, some babies just don’t need as much sleep as other babies just as some adults don’t need as much sleep as other adults. These babies want to play and chortle at 2 or 3 am each morning.. Let these gregarious types play alone!