Acknowledge

Acknowledgement While Talking & Communicating.

Acknowledgment While Talkingand as a Communications’ Skill: Acknowledging goes with talking. When you acknowledgeothers in talks, they feel understood, even if you don’t agree. Three steps toacknowledgment when talking.

Acknowledging

AcknowledgmentWhile Talking and Communicating.

You are talking to a friend. He tells you a long story containing many itemsthat you don’t agree with. What do you do?

Often when your child, lover/partner, or friend tells you a story or voices acomplaint, he/she is just asking for acknowledgment.

This does not mean that he/she wants agreement or compliance;  it merelyindicates a desire to be heard and understood. He is really talking to be understood.

 

Try these three steps to acknowledgment:

1.  Repeat  Back

Acknowledge by repeating back to your child, friend,  lover/partner, what he/she has said in similar words to show that you have heard and understood. Examples:
"You were upset today because I was late."
"You feel like I treat your sister better than I do you."
"I understand that you are upset by what happened."

2. Don’t Invalidate

It is not necessary to agree with the person you are  acknowledging.  You do not even need to feel that what he/she said  is  the truth. However, do not invalidate him or her. Examples of invalidation include:
"You’re too sensitive."
"You’re  certainly wrong. I don’t treat your sister  better  than you."
"There is no reason for you to feel like that."
"That’s a crazy way to feel."

3. Don’t Try to Change

Be satisfied just to acknowledge. Don’t try to change him or her.

Many  conflicts in your personal relationships can be avoided  if you will take the time to acknowledge other’s feelings and points of view. In fact, understanding is what talking is all about in this (and many) case.

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