This book is good for the woman who is an abusive relationship, for the woman who is entering a new relationship and wants it to be abuse-free, and for the helping professional.
Book Review by Pam Gordon
Why Does He Do That Inside the Mind of Angry and Controlling Men
by Lundy Bancroft
Bancroft has specialized in male domestic violence against females for 15 years. He not only describes the behavior of abusive men, he also tells us why they act the way they do and how these men think.
Do a few of your questions about your partner include:
How do I know when it is a really bad temper or when it has become abuse?
Why do we never get anywhere when we argue?
What are his values and beliefs?
Can he change or be cured?
How can I get him to change?
Can I trust that he has changed?
How do abusive men manipulate their families?
How do abusive men manipulate the legal system?
What is this doing to our children?
Why is he so nice and charming to other people without being nice to me?
Bancroft will answer those questions in an empathetic manner while reminding you to think for yourself at all times.
He enlightens readers on the many myths about abusive personalities, covers the ten abusive personality types, and describes the complex process of change for an abusive partner, including gay and lesbian partners.
In short, he not only describes the behavior of these men, he also tells us why they act the way they do and how these men think.
Bancroft lists the early warning signs of an abusive partner, so you can avoid the same problems in your next relationship.