Marriage and Women: This means a woman can't enter the dating scene being the "good woman" of a by-gone generation, pampering a man and playing to his ego. She has to be truthful about who she is and wants to remain from the beginning. |
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By Lori Anderson |
Women and Marriage: Eventually this autonomous woman will find a man who appreciates and loves her for who she is. Both partners can have a happy marriage and thus, will probably stay married. More information about women and issues of a woman:
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I believe most men really do want a happy wife. However, since men
are socialized to focus on different aspects of life and men are rarely intuitive, they
don't seem to have a clue about spousal happiness. Maybe men don't really need a clue. According to the statistics, it is women who are unhappily married, not men. If women are going to be happily married, maybe women have to break the "marriage molds" and start over. This means a woman can't enter the dating scene being the "good woman" of a by-gone generation, pampering a man and playing to his ego. She has to be truthful about who she is and wants to remain from the beginning. She can't drift into the wifely role of preparing meals, washing clothes, and being the primary caretaker of a man unless: 1. She is sure it is a role that will make her happy, regardless of how little of her own identity she keeps. 2. She is sure this role can be balanced with a meaningful and financially secure life for her, even after the kids are grown. 3. She is sure this sometimes manipulative--but outwardly always perfect--woman of the past is what she wants to become. 4. She trusts this man to stay with her and not indulge in "greener pastures," at least not on a permanent basis. So what kind of life is this? Not for me! If women don't want this kind of life, they need to be honest. They need to be, from the beginning, the independent and autonomous woman of their own generation and choice, realizing that: 1. Life is not a romance novel or a fairy tale for women or men. There is no Prince Charming for Cinderella, no Wendy for Peter Pan. 2. The rules of mom's day are just that--the rules of a by-gone era. They no longer apply. 3. Everyone is their own supporter and savior--the author of their own fate. Marriage is a partnership that must benefit two people to endure. Some men call an independent woman "hard," a feminist, a bitch, or worse. Certainly this woman will not be the girl who married dear ol' dad. But eventually this autonomous woman will find a man who appreciates and loves her for who she is. Both partners can have a happy marriage and thus, will probably stay married. As for the others--I imagine some will keep those divorce statistics alive and well. Others will remain single. |
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