Men and Sex for Women: Many males have difficulty working with their feelings. For many a man, sexual activity solidifies their feeling of masculinity and sexual acceptance is necessary in order for them to feel emotional acceptance. Males connect through sex. Sex and lots of sex is encouraged in males and for many a male, sex proves his masculine identity.
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Sex, anger, and humor are the only emotions our society allows "real men" to have. For most males, then, sex is the only arena in which they feel safe being openly emotional.
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From infancy, the predominant social message our society sends to males is that real men don't show emotions. Sex, anger, and humor are the only exceptions.
Men are to be tough and strong. Otherwise, how could society convince its young men to fight wars and slay dragons?
Men grow up to pride themselves on being unemotional, logical thinkers.
So it should come as no surprise that men have difficulty identifying, sharing, understanding, and working with their feelings.
Ask a man how he is feeling. He will almost always say, "Fine."
Is this irritating to a woman? You bet it is! Did the man deliberately seek to irritate his woman? Of course not.
The man probably doesn't even know how he's feeling. Since he has been taught to ignore his feelings his entire life, how would he even have a clue as to what he is feeling as an adult man?
But men are allowed to be sexual. In fact, sex, anger, and humor are the only emotions our society allows "real men" to have. For most men, then, sex is the only arena in which they feel safe being openly emotional. In addition:
Sex and lots of it is not only encouraged in males, it is even considered by many as a necessary proof of masculinity.
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