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My daughter recently turned 18 and has gotten involved with a 28year
old man who has been married twice. He says his wives were crazy and
that is the reason he is no longer married but we doubt him. He is
trying to keep our daughter away from us and isolating her from the
people who love her the most. She has quit college and sits in a mobile
home all day waiting on him to return home from work. He has not
allowed her to work. She does call occasionally and came to see us
during Christmas but he will not talk with us or get involved with our
family at all. We are just about crazy because this was the sweetest
kindest child (who was also a virgin) prior to this man. We feel so
helpless and do not know what to do. He has convinced her that she is
an adult and we cannot intervene in their lives. We have even considered
snatching her and taking her to a hospital but he will still be in town
when she comes home. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
I don’t know where to start, I am a single mother who decided to get a
divorce after 9 yrs. of abuse. I where 2 hearing aids, and I was diagnosed
with Manic Depression after the deaths of my parents both a month apart. I
Married exactly a Month after my fathers death, I was a Postal Carrier, and
had a lot going for me. The abuse started after the divorce I had a
urinary track infection where I was peeing pure blood, my ex did not
believe me, I was traveling at the time, when we arrived at our destination
I had to ask my friend for a clear glass, and my ex went into the bathroom
with me and I had to pee in front of him, this really did not matter to him.
He refused me treatment. I then had a nervous break, my ex would
constantly tell me not to go to the doctors that they just wanted my money.
I ended up getting social security, I guess that hurt his pride. Things
really started getting worse. I soon became pregnant I knew I would be the
best parent around if nothing else. Through out my pregnancy as I grew he
would not let me buy cloths, nor food for myself and the baby, he would
tell me to just drink milk, and bread, that’s all I needed. The truth was
he needed it for his drugs. Due to me being pregnant I had to get help so
I told his parents, that was the worst thing I could have done. After the
birth of my child I hemorrhaged twice again he did not want me to go to the
doctors, I finally went and had to have emergency surgeries. I bled for
approximately 10 months after that and ended up having to have a
hysterectomy. As my Child started growing I knew he could not talk right
again I would consult with my husband only to here him say, the Dr. just
want your money, My son developed warts on his feet may 3 at first still,
the same old story. I finally got brave and took him to both the hearing
dr. and to a podiatrist, my son had over 100 warts removed off his feet,
and he had a very sever speech problem. I took him to an early learning
center who had a speech therapist come to our house about 2 a week.
As I started meeting friends, they would tell me my ex was making fun of my
hearing, and they would ask why he didn’t help with the child, they also
would try to talk to him about taking care of need before his drugs. I
than developed a tumor in my breast, again he did not want me to have
surgery, I did but the evening after the surgery he knocked my stitches out.
I then knew the abuse was turning physical, I filed for divorce. I have
sole custody of my child, now but after our house sold 4 years a go some
man called me about land. I bought the land, and was set up, buy my ex
husband, I have been to court over, and over again, I was arrested, I was
followed, and Harassed to where I had to Move my brand new double wide off
of the land. I Paid cash to one man, and received a deed from another
man., and had an option logged at the court house for another part of the
land in which the switched it into someone else’s name, and tried to get me
for criminal trespassing. I do have a civil suit against these people.
Then I received 2 letters from the health department that my child had a
hearing problem, I took him to Ky. School for the Deaf. Yes he does have a
hearing problem I had to get a court order because my ex husband refuses to
let him where his hearing aids. They get him Barbi dolls for Christmas;
they tell him he need baby pull-ups, and are also very verbally mean to him.
I think to get back at me. My child is 9, and he tells me if he has to
live with his dad he will kill himself. Again I thought this was serious.
We went to court again, but when it came time to go to court, I received an
affidavit stating he was fighting for custody, because of my manic
depression, Can any one lead me to the right person for help, I do know
one thing, They say there’s not no such thing as a perfect parent, but I can
say I am sure close to one.
Please Respond for support !!!!!!!!!
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