Blended Family Blender
Is It a Blended Family or a Blender?
Is your blended family actually blended or a blender? When you combine a new family, you are not sure ifit is blended or blender. It is frightening at some points.
Your Blended Family: Is It Blended or a Blender?
How do your combine two families to make a blended family rather than operating a continuous blender? I’m sure you have heard that over 50% of the children of the US are being raised in blended families now. Some people have that figure as high as 65%. That’s right, I wrote 65% blended families.
And we have all heard tales of the wicked stepmom or the overbearing stepdad.
In fact, Idon’t think I know anyone whose life has not been touched in some way by a blended family.
Have you also heard that children are the cause of divorce in over 50% of second/third marriages?
Maybe you have, and now it’s you. You’re soon to be a step-parent!
Frightening, isn’t it?
How do your start a blended family?
Do you all join hands and jump into the water, hoping everyone can swim?
That’s a good way to drown as a stepfamily.
The most important part of becoming a stepparent is the prior planning you and your partner do before the wedding.
1. The adults need to agree in advance about discipline. Just like a journalist, answering who, what, when, where, and how is a good place to start with your discipline plan.
2. Then agree on all acceptable behavior for children, including the rules for your home and the consequences of breaking those rules.
3. Realize that each adult must support the other. No giving in or allowing children to manipulate the rules. Manipulation and inconsistency guarantee that you will have a "blender" family instead of a "blended" family.
4. Explain the rules. After the adults are in agreement, it is time for the children to have the new regime and the new rules explained to them.
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Explaining the rules to the children of the new blended family.
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CyberParent Recommended Reading for More Information: Blended Family Roots Family Factors Myth: Blended Family Equals Instant Famil Introducing Blended Families Second Marriages with Children Discipline for Blended Families. Blended Family Blended or Blender? New Stepparent: Now What? Stages in Blended Family Family Rules and Dynamics Building Kinship Six Common Blended Family Conflicts Stepfathers: A fact of life in America today. Stepparents Feel Isolated in Blended Family Book Review: The Blended Family Sourcebook Book Review: Blending Families Book Review: The Courage to Be a Stepmom Book Review: Divorce and New Beginnings Book Review: Stepcoupling Book Review: Step Wars Book Review: Step Wise Book Review: Surviving Your Adolescents. Book Review: 1-2-3 Magic Book Review: Boundaries Book Review: The Combined Family Book Review: Living in a StepFamily CD Review: Pick Me Up DVD Review: The Happiest Baby on Block VHS Review: Baby See ‘n Sign VHS Review: Sign with Your Baby VHS Review: The Wiggles-20 Videos
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