Friendships are crucial for most on this planet. If you’re not an outlier, then you’re wired as a social being, meaning social interaction and connection is a need. In this context, social interaction and connection means deep, meaningful exchanges rather than surface talk.
And we get it, it’s not easy to have a fulfilling talk in our busy era with everyone being busy; including you.
Co-workers as friends
So, most people fulfill their social needs with friends they met in their early childhood to their early 20s, because most people don’t make new friends after this age frame. Wouldn’t it be nice to fulfill your social need with those who are right next to you, such as your co-worker? Most are disinclined to build new, quality friendships after their 20s, and even with their co-workers because it takes too much effort and time.
It’s likely that most if not all of your friends are those who were in your immediate environment for a consistent amount of time, such as when you were going to school, sports club, or a religious center. But after a certain age, sadly people just don’t build friendships with those that are in the same circumstances, even if they’re inclined to build rapport with them because of perceived effort, prioritizing financial achievement over relationships, and a million other reasons.
There’s a group of strong individuals who show us that building relationships can be relatively quick. They’re the Navy Seals. Since they share extreme experiences with each other, they’re able to build solid rapport quickly. Yet, being a Navy Seal isn’t for everyone. At the core, we don’t mind new solid friendships or even strengthening existing ones. The hot theory amongst relationship psychologists is, “Shared exciting adventures or hardships among a group builds strong connections between them.”
So whether you’re looking to make new friends, further your rapport with your family members, or strengthen your bond with your spouse, engage in daring exciting adventures and see if that does the trick.
And if you’re willing, here’s some exciting team activities that you can engage in :
Bubble Soccer – Get into a huge Bubble with your friends and bump into each other while playing soccer.
Archery Tag – Feel like a combative sport like Paintball? Forget the mess and get the same electric experience with with bows and arrows
Nerf War in the Office – Grab Nerf Guns and darts then have an all out Nerf War
Paragliding – Fly like a bird with a partner harnessed under a big fabric wing
Trekking America from California to New York with a Motorcycle!
There’s reasons why adventures strengthen relationships:
- Adventures invoke positive emotions. When you share meaningful journeys with another person, the brain connects the other person with positive emotions, so you tend to revisit positive emotions whenever you’re with that person.
- People learn about each other during adventures because new behaviors arise in the presence of new stimuli. This breeds familiarity between each other and people are naturally inclined to familiarity.
Adventures create shared memories that can always be recalled to ignite a stimulating conversation that can lead to other worthy conversions. Recall, “Hey, do you remember that time…” as a conversation starter of tons of other conversations (some that lead nowhere but a good time and others that change the course of your life)