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Genders How does the battle start?

Gender misunderstandings can hurt relationships. Yet this battle starts at birth.

Battle of the Genders

How does it start?

While battles start at birth, gender misunderstandings can hurt relationships. The differences between men and women start at birth as parents and society begin the socialization process.

The need to separate from "mother" and become an independent self, causes different problems for boys and girls.

Gender misunderstandings can hurt relationships. Yet this battle starts at birth.

The Intimacy Story

The intimacy story helps explain the battle between the genders.

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Boys must separate from "mother" to form a gender identity. This causes boys to form a set of defenses against abandonment by "mother" and to form a strongly separate sense of self.

Because this separation of "mother" and boy comes before the ability to express complex emotional responses in words, a man often cannot talk comfortably about what his feelings mean to him. Emotions are dangerous and make him feel vulnerable. Reason and logic provide protection.

William Pollack in his book Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood, writes that boys are expected to detach or pull away from their mothers before they should.

A man then spends his life torn between a desire for close and intimate relationships with women and a defense against any relationship where intimacy and intensity are strong enough to mimic the strength of the relationship with his mother.

The girl child has less need to separate from "mother." Thus, she becomes a woman who needs relationships. Relationships offer safety while isolation offers threats.

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