Did you know that some of the happy moms you see around are actually happy?
I know it’s hard to believe with so many moms, and people in general, faking perfect lives on social media – but there are moms out there that are genuinely happy.
I don’t mean they are running around with rainbows flying from their hair, but they have a positive disposition when it comes to their overall life.
How can you achieve this nirvana as a busy mom?
Check out these things that happy moms do differently:
1. They Find Balance in Life
Parenthood is a perpetual juggling act, with moms trying to balance work, home, kids, partners, themselves, and more.
Happy moms know how to prioritize and make adjustments to ensure that everything is being taken care of to a certain degree.
They don’t fall into the trap of thinking, “I should be able to.”
Now, happy moms don’t find a perfect balance in life – no mom can.
But they know that when they feel out of balance, it’s time to reevaluate how things are going to readjust.
2. They Don’t Try to Be Perfect
Happy moms are happy with “good enough.”
That doesn’t mean they don’t strive to achieve certain things in their lives, but they don’t get hung up on being perfect.
Perfection is a lie that takes the joy out of motherhood and saps our energy.
Happy moms give themselves breaks, and they don’t beat themselves up for making mistakes – they see them as learning opportunities and move on.
They accept things as being “just done” instead of worrying about doing them perfectly.
This includes things they do themselves as well as tasks completed by children and partners.
3. They Don’t Try to Be Martyrs
Happy moms don’t try to become martyrs. They don’t push themselves to do everything to satisfy their own egos.
Doing this will lead to resentment, as well as physical and emotional exhaustion.
If this is you, stop doing too much to feel important and start asking for help. Let other people take some weight off your shoulders.
You also need to learn how to say “no” and establish your boundaries. You don’t have to do everything everyone asks of you!
4. They Take Care of Themselves
Happy moms take care of themselves and know when to prioritize their self-care.
Even if your life is busy, you need to carve out some time to do something for yourself, such as read, hang out with friends, meditate, take a bath, go for a walk, etc.
The perfect self-care activity is something that makes you feel relaxed and like yourself.
And you need to make these activities non-negotiable – they have to be included in your everyday life!
5. They Don’t Give In to Mom Guilt
Parental guilt is a very real thing, and happy moms feel it, they just don’t give in to it.
To avoid giving in to mom guilt, start by ignoring what people tell you that you SHOULD be doing, like you SHOULD be feeding your baby organic foods, or you SHOULDN’T let your kids watch tv.
Focus on doing what works for you!
Also, don’t beat yourself up over parenting mistakes. There’s no handbook to raising children, and again, happy moms know to use mistakes as learning opportunities.
6. They Don’t Compare Themselves to Other Moms
Happy moms don’t let themselves fall into the comparison trap.
The comparison trap is when moms see other “perfect” moms doing “perfect” things (especially on social media), and they feel inadequate because their lives don’t match.
These people don’t have it all, and they face their own struggles as mothers – you just don’t see it!
Happy moms also ignore criticisms from other moms. You know, the working moms who judge the stay-at-home moms and the stay-at-home moms that criticize the working moms, etc.
It’s better to spend your time focused on your thing and using your energy to support other moms and lift them up!
7. They Know When to Slow Down
Being a mom means taking care of a million important tasks at the same time – but happy moms know when to slow down and take a break.
Sometimes this means multitasking to free up time or walking away and taking a breather when things get stressful.
The one thing happy moms don’t do is try to take on too many tasks at once. This can lead to overwhelm and burnout.
Multitasking is an art, and you need to make sure you combine tasks that don’t need 100% of your attention.
When it comes to taking a break, it’s okay to leave the room when your child is screaming or have a sit halfway through doing the dishes.
8. They Changed Their Idea of Success
Pre-mom life is vastly different from mom life, and a lot of times, goals and dreams were dashed in an instant.
However, happy moms redefine what it means to be successful, and they praise themselves for doing their best.
They don’t try to be a supermom or “do it all.” They simply accept that being a mom is an important job and that they can follow new goals and dreams in their lives.
9. They Follow Their Passions
Happy moms find hobbies, jobs, or activities that bring joy into their lives, and they do them.
They understand that having a job they love is key to harmony, and they will pursue a career that aligns with their values and passions.
They also make time for hobbies and projects that bring them a sense of relaxation and fulfillment.
It can be hard to find time for this when you’re a busy mom, or maybe you have lost interest in what you used to love doing, but you can take the time to explore your passions – even include your kids when you can!
10. They Take the Good With the Bad
Happy moms understand that life is not all cupcakes and unicorns – they don’t wear rose-tinted glasses.
Instead, they take the good with the bad, accepting bad moments for what they are and being grateful for the good ones.
They don’t dwell on mistakes or past behaviors. Happy moms move forward from negative events and work toward creating positive ones.
They have good days, and they have bad days. They get angry, frustrated, and sad, just like everyone else.
You Can Be a Happy Mom!
Again, being a happy mom doesn’t mean your life is sunshine and daisies. It simply means that you feel a general sense of happiness in your overall life.
Moms everywhere know that motherhood is not easy, but it doesn’t have to feel like a life sentence or a chore.
You can find balance and actually enjoy being a mom!
How do you find happiness in your mom life? Share your advice with our readers in the comments below!