Friends come and go; old friendships may fade and new ones may form. One thing that will play a huge role in their lives is the company they will decide to keep.
So now the question is, how confident are you with your kid’s friends?
Tell Me Who Your Friends Are and I’ll Tell You Who You Are
We’ve all heard this aphorism before, and there truly is significant truth to it. A good apple mixed in a basket of rotten ones may stay good for a while but will still be tainted (and even turn) over time.
In most cases, worry and hesitation will haunt us when we see them around people that we find ‘iffy’, even when we know our kids are straight arrows.
Some may look prim and proper on the outside but are keeping rather upsetting traits on the inside.
However, it’s also not fair for us to just assume what kind of people they are if we don’t get to know them first. Much like anything else, it’s important to do your research. One thing we all need to understand is the simple logic that appearances are not enough to tell what kind of person we are dealing with.
Some teens might decide to sport unusual fashion and personal stylings but are genuinely kind and nice people on the inside. Conversely, some may look prim and proper on the outside but are keeping rather upsetting traits on the inside.
How Do You Keep Your Kids In Check?
It doesn’t even matter if your child is 8 or 18, trust and respect will still play a huge role in achieving this goal. If your child knows you are genuinely interested to know and welcome his friends, then he’ll have a sense of comfort and likely the idea that they’ll always be welcome there. Achieve this and they’ll never hang far from home.
Get to know their friends a little. This doesn’t mean you need to hang around where they go. Have your kid invite his or her friends over.
Observe from a distance that’s enough to give them some privacy to speak and move relatively freely.
Make the effort to prepare for it. You’re not exactly throwing a party, but having a good supply of snacks will do just fine. It won’t be difficult to have an idea of what they’re up to or what activities bind them.
There’s no need to be all chummy, just make your presence known by acknowledging they’re there and leave the room. Observe from a distance that’s enough to give them some privacy to speak and move relatively freely.
As their friends grow more comfortable around you, you’ll even gain the advantage of having an ally in looking after your child. You’ll have the peace of mind in knowing if they are in safe company.
We can guide our children to the best of our abilities and hope that one day they’ll put everything we teach them to good use. We cannot keep an eye on them forever, but perhaps giving them a safety net for any eventuality will allow them to understand that you will always be there for them.