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Doggy Blue

Bethany J. Royer

Step-parent worries are not always necessary. Dejah, my boyfriend’s daughter, is hooked on Popsicles, especially the blue ones. She’ll dig through the box, passing up favorite flavors like orange and grape, for the brilliant blue that seems to always be at the bottom of the container. One evening Michael pointed to the Popsicle she was eating, "Dejah, what color is that?" "Blue." "Very good, now what color is your gown?" Dejah looked down at her yellow gown with a white sheep in a pink bow and stated "Blue." "No, that’s yellow. What color is the dog?"

He pointed at my dog Rose, a black Cocker Spaniel, Doberman mix. "Doggy-Blue."

Michael and I couldn’t resist laughing. Dejah laughed with us, suddenly racing across the room to me. She crawled onto my lap, squirming and giggling; I was both surprised and enchanted. I constantly worry when she visits; usually these are weekend visits. However, she has been with us for nearly three weeks for her summer vacation. During the first week I worried myself sick wondering whether she was happy to be here, missing her mother, or not liking me. Yet, here she was, laughing and smiling in my arms. As happy and carefree as could be, completely putting me at ease.

I hugged her and kissed her forehead, producing more giggles and stealing my heart. We’re nearing the end of her stay. While I was terrified in the beginning of having her here, well, in less then four days she will be back with her mother. My home will be empty for a few weeks and I’ll be getting used to having my mornings and evenings to myself again. I’m going to miss doggy-blue. Additional information about stepparenting, stepfamilies.

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