Many men view sex as equal to love. Sex is a measure of love for these men. Some men do not feel loved unless sex is present in a relationship. Sex is a chance to let go of their controlled emotions.
Many men do not feel loved by women unless sex is involved. They feel the relationship begins when sex begins and ends when sex ends. These men often push sex before women are ready, often killing any chance for a relationship to form or grow.
Reality Check: Not all men are like all other men and not all women are like other women.
Men tend to be structured at all times. This protects them from vulnerability. It also keeps emotions from getting in or out.
They are in a kind of emotional trance. Sex helps break the trance; it is a chance to really let go.
So, What Does Intimacy Mean to a Man?
Men view sex as the true expression of love and usually think a relationship hasn’t even started until it includes sex.
One single man told the singles’ publication SOLO that he doesn’t really believe a woman loves him until they have sex.
He said, “She can think she is showing love to me in many ways from cooking for me to waiting on me. But until we have sex, I do not feel loved.”
Yet men can push for sex so strongly and so early in the relationship that the woman is repulsed by the man rather than attracted. The relationship never has a chance to develop to the point that the woman feels comfortable with sex or feels that the man is an adequate lover.
A man “cut off” from sex by the woman he cares for will believe he is no longer loved.
Sex is a measure of love for him.