Being a mother is such a tough job on its own. When combined with a full-time career, it can feel like too much to take on.
But women like you do it, and they absolutely crush it. How? Well, that’s what this article is all about.
We’ll be discussing six effective tactics that working mothers all over the world use to balance their responsibilities at home and in the office:
1. They Marry Well
By the time you become a mother, the odds are high that you’ve settled down with a partner. If you haven’t, we’ll share some helpful tips later. But for this section, marrying well means establishing a supportive relationship with your partner.
Supportive relationships are a two-way street that takes as much as they give. You’ll also need to be supportive to your partner and give them all the encouragement and respect they need.
Once this framework is square at home, you can find the confidence and strength to take on motherhood while climbing to the top of your career.
If you haven’t settled with a partner, consider looking out for qualities that support your ambition.
Hopefully, you know we don’t mean physical looks. While those are important, there are other factors to consider, like their love language, personality, and willingness to sacrifice. For example, are they willing to take care of things at home while you hold down the finances?
If you establish these the first time around, it will be much easier to create the system of support you need to excel in your career.
2. They Identify Their Ideal
It’s very easy to keep mental pictures of our goals without actually taking time to define them. It helps to settle down and map out what your perfect life looks like.
That way, you can channel your energy effectively and ignore activities that don’t contribute to your ultimate goal.
For example, what does it mean to be a successful parent to you? Is it attending all the games and PTAs or being your child’s best friend and confidant? What about at work? Do you prefer to be the best-performing employee? Or are you okay with delivering consistent results?
As humans, we’re hardwired to crave perfect scenarios where everything falls into place. And you should certainly try to achieve that, as much as you can.
But because things are rarely perfect, having your ideal mapped out can keep you on the straight and narrow.
3. They Create Processes That Work For Them
Before we jump into this one, there are a few things you should know. The first is that systems take a while to create. As a result, you may need to constantly re-iterate until you find what works perfectly for you.
Also, life is dynamic, and you can expect things to change more quickly than you might realize.
As a mother, one of your chief concerns will be ensuring your child’s welfare and safety, and that’s an excellent place to start. You won’t be able to concentrate at work until that’s sorted.
Baby sitters are an excellent support system that has helped mothers in the past. You should also consider investing in a baby monitor, and some soft crib sheets to ensure that your little one sleeps soundly and you’ll know exactly when she wakes.
Any system you can set up at work will also go a long way in making things easier for you. Think about possible emergency situations in your home and office and how you’ll deal with them. Better still, create detailed plans so they don’t catch you by surprise.
4. They Go Easy On Themselves
People who are high achievers also tend to be quite hard on themselves. They make wildly ambitious plans based on what they believe can be accomplished, and then feel bad when it doesn’t work out exactly as expected.
For many moms, the judging comes from a place of believing that you haven’t lived up to your un (often unrealistic) expectations. This then leads to self-doubt, frustration, and in some situations, depression.
Another source of judgment is from your peers. As a working mom, you’re open to criticism from both coworkers and other mothers. And it’s quite easy to see how you’re “underperforming” in both of these aspects. It helps to ignore these criticisms as they arise.
One effective solution is to focus on the things you have accomplished in the past and remind yourself that you’re actually doing great.
It also helps to search for the feedback within the judgment and use it to make yourself better.
For example, a snarky comment that you’re always late to work only means that you need to think of a better time management system.
5. They Are Selfish With Their Time
You probably know this already, but it bears repeating: you have two full-time jobs. Being a mother takes everything you have, and then some.
And whether you’re an employee or a business owner, it takes commitment and effort to show up every day and do your work.
You simply don’t have enough hours in the day to do everything, and that’s why you must be ruthless with the time you have. This means you may have to turn down a few nights with your co-workers and trade it instead for quality time with your family.
It could also mean that you decide not to attend meetings unless you absolutely have to be there. If there are no clear agendas for you, and if it’s a message that can be shared via email, you may not need to attend the meeting.
6. They Keep Going
Remember the saying, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”? Well, the good news is that you’ve taken that step.
And as they say, the first step is always the hardest. After that, it’s all down to tenacity.
As every mother will tell you, there are days where it feels like everything is crumbling. And on other days, you feel like you’re on top of the world. Whatever day you’re on, remember to keep pushing.