Single parents need to keep a sense of family for their children now that the children’s family of origin is broken.
What is a family?
This is a question single parents ask time and time again because it is so important to give our children of single parents a sense of family.
For children of single parents it must be more than Thanksgiving dinner at Mom’s and Christmas dinner at Dad’s.
We are all anchored to a vast network of family relationships, family patterns, family rules, and various roles played by members of our family. This is the family personality and the family system.
Single parents need to give their children a sense of family.
We carry this family with us into any new family that we form. It is our family of origin.
“We Wilsons always eat Thanksgiving dinner at noon. And we never eat turkey. We always have ham.”
“The Murray family is a vegetarian family. We think that’s the healthy way to eat, especially for children and teens.”
Any home has rules. They are tied to the family identity and destiny. These rules are not right or wrong.
Any home has rules. They are tied to the family identity and destiny. These rules are not right or wrong. They are just the “way we Wilsons or Murrays do it.” However, to the Wilsons or Murrays, these rules are the right rules.
While many authors have tried their best to describe family and even more have infamously quoted what they believe family to be, family remains a rather open ended – but critically important construct to the child.
Again, this sense of family is important to the child who has lost the complete circle of his/her family of origin.